Roland TD-4KX2 V-Drums (All Mesh + KD-9 Kick + 3-Zone Ride)

It was the excellent salesman at Nick McBrain's Drum One who steered us towards electronic kits for this reason. Unless you can afford a lot of soundproofing, at which point acoustic is better. But my son has access to acoustics at school, so this is fine for practice.

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